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The DADDYING blog provides commentary, personal narratives, reviews, research & other creative expressions from a diverse group of colleagues, guest writers, and experts to raise awareness and promote the benefits of lifelong Dad involvement.
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Hammering Out Life's Lessons
I was born in 1951 when my Dad was almost 40. That was the time when fathers were supposed to dispense advice to children based on TV shows.
Allan Shedlin
Dec 2, 2020
A Good "Family Man" Can Be Hard to Define
I have been a dad for 48 years and a Grandpa for 12. My "kids" have thanked me, over and over, for their growing up.
Allan Shedlin
Oct 21, 2020
The Superpower of Being Present
Think of the children in your life. Their superpower is living in the moment. COVID-19 implores us to be more like our children.
Allan Shedlin
Sep 30, 2020
Lost In The Sun
As best as any words can, Ethelbert Miller's "Lost In The Sun" conveys some of the unimaginable heartbreak felt by a parent losing a child.
Allan Shedlin
Sep 9, 2020
How To Best Support Your Child’s Other Father
Biological fathers shouldn't view stepdads or foster dads as a threat to the relationship they have with their kids.
Allan Shedlin
Aug 19, 2020
Be the Role Model You Wanted As A Kid
What I wanted back then was access to an adult with whom I could take refuge & trust to let me vent...Luckily, my dad recognized this too.
Allan Shedlin
Aug 6, 2020
Mommying Helps Me Cope with COVID-19 Isolation and Dad Grief
My own personal grief has been set aside while we mourn so many things before COVID19. The pandemic made me be the mother I dreamed of being
Allan Shedlin
Jul 29, 2020
Rebuilding My Relationship With Dad Now That He's Gone
It was only in the following days, weeks, & years that I realized his passing was just the beginning of a new kind of relationship with him.
Allan Shedlin
Jul 15, 2020
Presidential Fathers: The Most Powerful Men Can Be Involved Dads
What are the possibilities for effective “daddying” when dad is one of the most powerful and busiest people in the world?
Allan Shedlin
Jul 1, 2020
An Ode To Baseball Dads
One of the best parts of being in this baseball family community is that I’ve had many chances to witness father-son relationships.
Allan Shedlin
Jun 24, 2020
Daddying Helps Navigate Shifting Landscapes of Work and Masculinity
Several trends have made dads less involved in the lives of kids, making evolved versions of male role models, or "daddying," vital as ever.
Allan Shedlin
Jun 10, 2020
I Am Not My Father’s Daughter – Wait, Yes I Am
Judge Monica Zamora proudly declares herself to be her father's daughter.
Allan Shedlin
Jun 4, 2020
Your Helping Hand Is the Antidote to COVID-19 Fear
With COVID-19, we're all scared & want to know how to overcome fear it's caused. Reaching out to hold someone’s hand is the best antidote.
Allan Shedlin
May 27, 2020
Mindfulness Helps Honor What's Important On Memorial Day
Armor Down founder and DADvisor Ben King teaches us a new way to give honor and observe Memorial Day with our families through mindfulness.
Allan Shedlin
May 20, 2020
Giving Dads Help They Need to Be Involved and Battle "Guy Code"
Research shows kids & families are healthier when dads/kids are involved in each others' lives. Removing as many obstacles as possible helps
Allan Shedlin
May 6, 2020
This Is What I Learned From My Lovely Emma On A Windy Day
Emma’s my 9-year-old granddaughter, the first offspring of my first offspring. To say Emma is a delight begs more descriptive adjectives.
Allan Shedlin
Apr 29, 2020
Soul Searching and Daddy Yearning In COVID-19 Isolation
The men of my family were men of small rooms. I think of this as I begin another week of social distancing.
Allan Shedlin
Apr 15, 2020
Fathering The Sickness (AKA Ministering to the Sick)
Dad wouldn’t have done anything different in a pandemic. He was always stockpiling essentials.
Allan Shedlin
Apr 8, 2020
A Kid's View on Coronavirus: It's A Powerful Lesson in Gratitude
Guest post from U. of New Mexico physician & Dadvisor Dr. Anthony Fleg who considers parenting lessons learned from the coronavirus crisis.
Allan Shedlin
Mar 17, 2020
Getting the Banned Back Together
Daddying blog editor Scott Beller kicks off the holiday season by presenting the 6th annual Books to Read with Your Kids Holiday Gift Guide & FREE Book Giveaway!
Allan Shedlin
7 hours ago
What the Heck is Neotenic Daddying?
In honor of Mickey Mouse's birthday, Daddying Film Festival & Forum (D3F) Founder Allan Shedlin defines "neotenic daddying" and explains how Dads can best apply the idea to their everyday parenting.
Allan Shedlin
Nov 18
The Pinnacle of Daddying
Daddying Film Festival & Forum (D3F) founder Allan Shedlin opens the holiday season reflecting on fatherhood and how the lifelong process of daddying has been as nurturing for him as it has for his children.
Allan Shedlin
Nov 12
Farewell to A Caring, Thoughtful, Giving Dad, Granddad, and Writer
Daddying blog editor Scott Beller remembers his first boss, longtime friend, and award-winning writer J. Boyce Gleason.
Allan Shedlin
Nov 6
At School Our Kids Are Now Forced to Learn the Difference Between Spooky and Truly Scary
Daddying blog Editor Scott Beller writes about the horrific state of our country and classrooms in 2025 and how this Halloween, our kids have been forced to learn the difference between Halloween frights and real monsters.
Allan Shedlin
Oct 31
Setting Sail – A Father's Journey Reimagined
Guest poetry by 21st Century Dads founder David Hirsch intended to help comfort other parents caring for their own special needs children.
Allan Shedlin
Oct 22
D3F Makes an Impact Because The Importance of Daddying Is Universal
Daddying Film Festival & Forum (D3F) founder Allan Shedlin explains one of the many behind-the-scenes benefits of managing a festival with such universal appeal: forging diverse and lasting friendships.
Allan Shedlin
Oct 16
Heroes Fight Book Bans for Their Kids' Freedom to Read and Think for Themselves
Daddying blog editor Scott Beller provides a Banned Books Week reminder that the freedom to read fight continues and reading with our kids helps open their minds and ours.
Allan Shedlin
Oct 8
A Poem For Our Grandchildren During Ugly Times
Granddad, poet, and literary activist E. Ethelbert Miller shares an original poem for his grandchildren and yours that reflects these difficult times.
Allan Shedlin
Oct 1
When Our Babies Become Adults, Daddying Work Persists
Daddying blog Editor Scott Beller debunks the myth that dads and their children can age out of blogging relevance.
Allan Shedlin
Sep 24
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