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Allan Shedlin

Dec 3, 2020

Hammering Out Life's Lessons

I was born in 1951 when my Dad was almost 40. That was the time when fathers were supposed to dispense advice to children based on TV shows.

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A Good "Family Man" Can Be Hard to Define

Allan Shedlin

Oct 22, 2020

A Good "Family Man" Can Be Hard to Define

I have been a dad for 48 years and a Grandpa for 12. My "kids" have thanked me, over and over, for their growing up.

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Allan Shedlin

Oct 1, 2020

The Superpower of Being Present

Think of the children in your life. Their superpower is living in the moment. COVID-19 implores us to be more like our children.

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Allan Shedlin

Sep 10, 2020

Lost In The Sun

As best as any words can, Ethelbert Miller's "Lost In The Sun" conveys some of the unimaginable heartbreak felt by a parent losing a child.

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How To Best Support Your Child’s Other Father

Allan Shedlin

Aug 20, 2020

How To Best Support Your Child’s Other Father

Biological fathers shouldn't view stepdads or foster dads as a threat to the relationship they have with their kids.

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Allan Shedlin

Aug 6, 2020

Be the Role Model You Wanted As A Kid

What I wanted back then was access to an adult with whom I could take refuge & trust to let me vent...Luckily, my dad recognized this too.

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Mommying Helps Me Cope with COVID-19 Isolation and Dad Grief

Allan Shedlin

Jul 30, 2020

Mommying Helps Me Cope with COVID-19 Isolation and Dad Grief

My own personal grief has been set aside while we mourn so many things before COVID19. The pandemic made me be the mother I dreamed of being

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Rebuilding My Relationship With Dad Now That He's Gone

Allan Shedlin

Jul 16, 2020

Rebuilding My Relationship With Dad Now That He's Gone

It was only in the following days, weeks, & years that I realized his passing was just the beginning of a new kind of relationship with him.

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Presidential Fathers: The Most Powerful Men Can Be Involved Dads

Allan Shedlin

Jul 2, 2020

Presidential Fathers: The Most Powerful Men Can Be Involved Dads

What are the possibilities for effective “daddying” when dad is one of the most powerful and busiest people in the world?

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Allan Shedlin

Jun 25, 2020

An Ode To Baseball Dads

One of the best parts of being in this baseball family community is that I’ve had many chances to witness father-son relationships.

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Daddying Helps Navigate Shifting Landscapes of Work and Masculinity

Allan Shedlin

Jun 11, 2020

Daddying Helps Navigate Shifting Landscapes of Work and Masculinity

Several trends have made dads less involved in the lives of kids, making evolved versions of male role models, or "daddying," vital as ever.

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I Am Not My Father’s Daughter – Wait, Yes I Am

Allan Shedlin

Jun 4, 2020

I Am Not My Father’s Daughter – Wait, Yes I Am

Judge Monica Zamora proudly declares herself to be her father's daughter.

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Your Helping Hand Is the Antidote to COVID-19 Fear

Allan Shedlin

May 28, 2020

Your Helping Hand Is the Antidote to COVID-19 Fear

With COVID-19, we're all scared & want to know how to overcome fear it's caused. Reaching out to hold someone’s hand is the best antidote.

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Mindfulness Helps Honor What's Important On Memorial Day

Allan Shedlin

May 21, 2020

Mindfulness Helps Honor What's Important On Memorial Day

Armor Down founder and DADvisor Ben King teaches us a new way to give honor and observe Memorial Day with our families through mindfulness.

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Giving Dads Help They Need to Be Involved and Battle "Guy Code"

Allan Shedlin

May 7, 2020

Giving Dads Help They Need to Be Involved and Battle "Guy Code"

Research shows kids & families are healthier when dads/kids are involved in each others' lives. Removing as many obstacles as possible helps

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This Is What I Learned From My Lovely Emma On A Windy Day

Allan Shedlin

Apr 29, 2020

This Is What I Learned From My Lovely Emma On A Windy Day

Emma’s my 9-year-old granddaughter, the first offspring of my first offspring. To say Emma is a delight begs more descriptive adjectives.

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Soul Searching and Daddy Yearning In COVID-19 Isolation

Allan Shedlin

Apr 15, 2020

Soul Searching and Daddy Yearning In COVID-19 Isolation

The men of my family were men of small rooms. I think of this as I begin another week of social distancing.

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Fathering The Sickness (AKA Ministering to the Sick)

Allan Shedlin

Apr 8, 2020

Fathering The Sickness (AKA Ministering to the Sick)

Dad wouldn’t have done anything different in a pandemic. He was always stockpiling essentials.

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A Kid's View on Coronavirus: It's A Powerful Lesson in Gratitude

Allan Shedlin

Mar 17, 2020

A Kid's View on Coronavirus: It's A Powerful Lesson in Gratitude

Guest post from U. of New Mexico physician & Dadvisor Dr. Anthony Fleg who considers parenting lessons learned from the coronavirus crisis.

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Hammering Out Life's Lessons

A Good "Family Man" Can Be Hard to Define

The Superpower of Being Present

Lost In The Sun

How To Best Support Your Child’s Other Father

Be the Role Model You Wanted As A Kid

Mommying Helps Me Cope with COVID-19 Isolation and Dad Grief

Rebuilding My Relationship With Dad Now That He's Gone

Presidential Fathers: The Most Powerful Men Can Be Involved Dads

An Ode To Baseball Dads

Daddying Helps Navigate Shifting Landscapes of Work and Masculinity

I Am Not My Father’s Daughter – Wait, Yes I Am

Your Helping Hand Is the Antidote to COVID-19 Fear

Mindfulness Helps Honor What's Important On Memorial Day

Giving Dads Help They Need to Be Involved and Battle "Guy Code"

This Is What I Learned From My Lovely Emma On A Windy Day

Soul Searching and Daddy Yearning In COVID-19 Isolation

Fathering The Sickness (AKA Ministering to the Sick)

A Kid's View on Coronavirus: It's A Powerful Lesson in Gratitude

AJ Jacobs Braved the Internet to Bolster His Daddy Wisdom

Was 2020 Real or Just Virtual?

May 2020 Silver Linings Energize Daddying Hope for 2021